Much ado about Home Study

Aside of meeting the baby, the most exciting thing to happen during the adoption process is the Home Study. Its exciting because it is the first human interaction since you register, and it is unnerving because there is possibility that you could be rejected. 

A call from the social worker informing us of her imminent arrival stirred up a flurry of activities. I was simultaneously worried about the state of my home, my son's uncut hair, the pending documents and how to tuck away my grey hair effectively lest I look too old to raise a baby :)

My mind simultaneously went on auto-rewind and recalled everything my friend had told me. And I tell them to you plus my own experience below. 

What happens during Home Study?

It is when the Social Worker from the chosen SAA visits your place and evaluates you, your home and all the members of the family who live under the same roof and interview all of you. She also checks all the documents and advises you on any other documents you need.She also throws light on how the entire process works.You can talk to her and get your doubts clarified

Who should be present at home during the Home Study?

Everybody who lives under the same roof should be present during the home study. If you already have children, they should be present too. If someone else is going to be the primary care giver for your baby, perhaps your parent in case both of you are working, they should also be present.

How long does a Home Study last? 

In our case, it went on for 4 hours. But it did not seem too long as we were enjoying the whole process too, and entertaining the Social Worker like we would entertain a guest. We were open with our questions about adoption and attentively listened as she counselled us.

How clean should my home be?

Get your home as clean as it would be on a 'good home day'. Let it not be too sterile or overdone. Basically, be yourself. 

How should I prepare my child for the Home Study?

If there is something more unpredictable than the weather, it is our children's behaviour. Even the SAA knows that. They just check if the child knows about adoption and is willing to have a sibling. Little A was asked questions like "Will you take care of your sister?" and "Will you share your toys with your sister?"to which he thankfully nodded yes. (Phew!! There went 100 Rs to my Kuladeivam )

What kind of information would the Social Worker need?

Well, pretty much everything about your life. Mine included questions on how well I get along with my MIL to why I do not work. We were asked how often we fight. Whatever the question, just answer politely and honestly. Do not be offended by any question because it is important information to the Social Worker. Just help them know you better

When will the Home Study Report (HSR) be uploaded?

The HSR shall be uploaded before 15 days from the date of Home Study. 

How much should I pay during the Home Study?

We paid 6000 Rs as our Home study fee. Check the CARA guide lines for the exact amount to be paid. Keep your cheque book handy. 

A final word, just be yourselves and don't hold back any question that you have about adoption, because you will not be meeting an authority on this subject very often. 

Drop in a comment if you have questions, and Good Luck with your Home Study!!