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The decision to add a child to the family irrespective of whether the child will be biological or adopted, is a HUGE one.I am not even going to start speaking about the responsibilities:)
While most of us go with the flow for the former (You know most people follow the unstated one year cooling off period before jumping into having a child! I kind of fall in this group too and I love being a biological parent every bit :D ), we generally take time to consider adoption as an option.
A lot of people ask us why? Well, we do not have an answer. Both of us had a really strong feeling that we had a child out there who belonged with us, waiting for us to get her home. As a family, we believe more in soul-connections than bloodlines. And as both of us tend to play by our hearts, and seldom by the rules, registering was the next natural step.
Look at the photo, don't you think we were meant to be a family, all along?
When we saw friends, from more or less similar walks of life, around us adopting, our decision only grew stronger. We now had people who we could talk to, discuss our fears, clarify our doubts. This support group is a great blessing when it comes to adoption. I am ever grateful to those friends who guided me through the process and patiently addressed my panic calls
Some of my friends have told me they adopted because they already had a child of one gender and wanted one of the other. Some have told me they had waited long enough for their child to arrive and were going to adopt. Some have told me they just have more room and much more love in the family that they could share with another baby.
We had an almost two year period from when we started thinking seriously about it to the day we registered. In our case we have little A, our biological son. As much as we wanted to be a 100% sure about adoption, we wanted him to be sure too as this would be a huge game changer for him!His little sister would be as much part of his life as our daughter would be in ours.
During the process of deciding, it is important not to rush your partner or your child. Different people take different amount of time to decide, and the registration should happen if and only when all are ready. In my case, one of us was ready in a month and the other partner took around two years.
Who did we consult before registering? Well, with the exception of a dear friend who explained the entire process over an hour long phone call, none. It was a decision taken entirely by us as we knew that parents might not be a 100% okay to begin with. So, we registered and then immediately informed our parents.
Should you follow our footsteps? Probably not, we are not good people to follow :D Work according to your family dynamics.
If you have adopted, what was your reason? Do leave a comment
Upcoming post alert- list of documents needed for adoption
While most of us go with the flow for the former (You know most people follow the unstated one year cooling off period before jumping into having a child! I kind of fall in this group too and I love being a biological parent every bit :D ), we generally take time to consider adoption as an option.
A lot of people ask us why? Well, we do not have an answer. Both of us had a really strong feeling that we had a child out there who belonged with us, waiting for us to get her home. As a family, we believe more in soul-connections than bloodlines. And as both of us tend to play by our hearts, and seldom by the rules, registering was the next natural step.
Look at the photo, don't you think we were meant to be a family, all along?
When we saw friends, from more or less similar walks of life, around us adopting, our decision only grew stronger. We now had people who we could talk to, discuss our fears, clarify our doubts. This support group is a great blessing when it comes to adoption. I am ever grateful to those friends who guided me through the process and patiently addressed my panic calls
Some of my friends have told me they adopted because they already had a child of one gender and wanted one of the other. Some have told me they had waited long enough for their child to arrive and were going to adopt. Some have told me they just have more room and much more love in the family that they could share with another baby.
During the process of deciding, it is important not to rush your partner or your child. Different people take different amount of time to decide, and the registration should happen if and only when all are ready. In my case, one of us was ready in a month and the other partner took around two years.
Who did we consult before registering? Well, with the exception of a dear friend who explained the entire process over an hour long phone call, none. It was a decision taken entirely by us as we knew that parents might not be a 100% okay to begin with. So, we registered and then immediately informed our parents.
Should you follow our footsteps? Probably not, we are not good people to follow :D Work according to your family dynamics.
If you have adopted, what was your reason? Do leave a comment
Upcoming post alert- list of documents needed for adoption
6 comments:
Pretty nice of you folks. We are adoptive parents too. Got our little girl 14 years back. We had our elder daughter who was 8 at that time. We have always been contemplating adoption since the time I and my wife knew each other. Majorly because of what you said. There is room in heart and hearth. There are plenty of awesome children out there wanting families and we felt that we could be a suitable family. Lovely experience it has been so far. The girl has grown into a beautiful lady who can accomplish many things with calm and a smile in her face. And also be that pest all children are :)
I totally understand - the beauty part as well as the pest part :)
Thank you so much for stopping by and sharing :)
Congratulations to you..Great decision..your lil daughter will be very proud of u and ur family for this decision..
Thanks Geetha! We are also terribly proud of her.. She has proved to be such a fighter! And as I always say, we were meant to be together.. things might seem like our plan but it has been Gods plan all the way
I have a question here.. do you tell the child later in the future about the adoption ? Just a thought !
I will be telling her right from the beginning... In terms that she can understand.. there will be a separate post on that with hopefully other parents also giving inputs.
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